Proud of Your Kids? Tell them…

I grew up continually seeking “approval” from ‘Dear Ole Dad.’  It seems I could never do enough.  I would work my ass off for hours on end, just hoping for a small nod of approval.  Never came.  Didn’t stop me from trying even harder…

Mom would often tell me that she would overhear Dad tell the ‘rum-dums’ at the bar how proud he was of me.  That seemed to make it even worse; why couldn’t he ever tell me?

It wasn’t until I got sober that I realized, ‘it wasn’t me,’ it was him.  He was incapable of expressing any feelings to others, let alone his son!  What a revelation that was, to know it wasn’t ‘my fault.’

So, what do I take from it all?  Simple:  Never miss an opportunity to tell your kids how proud you are of them.  If you haven’t told them recently, then what are you waiting for?

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