4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
“You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.”
It took sobriety for me to begin to understand this. When I was drinking I would “champion” just about any cause, or issue of ‘the freedom, oppressed peoples of America,’ no matter how small they might be. I would gleefully ‘mount my horse, and charge any windmill in sight!’ Just like Don Quixote. Over and over I would take up thinks I couldn’t control, and hammer at them – until I was exhausted. Then I would drink.
Sobriety is such a blessing. Today I am cognizant of what I have control of, and what I don’t have any control over. And I am so aware of “choices” that I have today. (Actually, I have had “choices” all my life; it’s just while I was drinking I made so damn many wrong ones!)
For me today, it’s the “awareness” that I do have these choices that enrich and empower my life…
I still tend to waste energy on things I can’t control, but no where near as bad as what I did before. I think they call this ‘progress…’ And this is all any of us can ask for: “…progress, not perfection.”