My Sears Wooden Hammer…

“Now, why would I write about a wood hammer,” you might ask.

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Well, if I had you in my hands as much as I have had this old Sears wooden hammer, I would probably be writing about you also!

I can’t remember when I bought this hammer, maybe in 1991 or ’92?  Or perhaps, even earlier.  Suffice to say, it has been with me many a year.  And I have spent so much time with it – building many wonderful things.

I enjoy the feel of a wooden hammer vs. a metal hammer.  It’s like the hickory of the handle becomes an extension of me.  I’m comfortable with it.  I find metal-handled hammers too ‘impersonal.’  If you prefer them, fine – they are just not for me…

Can’t think of much more to tell you about my Sears wooden hammer this morning, so I’ll leave it at this…

 

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“When You Hear Your Own Story…”

I love ‘stories.’  That’s one of the reasons I am blogging.  Sometimes I encounter a story that is better just reproducing, rather than attempting to retell it myself.  The following is one of those stories.  It comes from a  book, “The Spirituality of Imperfection,” by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham.  Enjoy… and then, ponder.

“On the day the Baal Shem Tov was dying, he called together his disciples and assigned each of them a task to carry on in his name, to continue his work.  When he finished, he still had one more task.  And so he called the last disciple and gave him this responsibility; to go all over Europe to retell stories about the Master.  The disciple was very disappointed.  This was hardly a prestigious job.  But the Baal Shem Tov told him that he would not have to do this forever; he would receive a sign when he should stop and then he could live out the rest of his life in ease.

So after the Baal Shem Tov died, the disciple set off, and days and months turned into years and years of telling stories, until he felt he told them in every part of the world.  Then he heard of a man in Italy, a nobleman in fact, who would pay a gold ducat for each new story told.  So the disciple made his way to Italy to the nobleman’s castle.  When he arrived, however, he discovered to his absolute horror that he had forgotten all the Baal Shem Tov stories!   He couldn’t remember a single one!  He wa mortified.  But the nobleman was kind and urged him to stay on a few days anyway, in the hope that he would eventually remember something.

But the next day and again the next he remembered nothing.  Finally, on the fourth day the disciple protested that he must go, out of sheer embarrassment.  As he was about to leave, indeed as he was walking down the path leading front he nobleman’s castle, suddenly he remembered one story.  It wasn’t much of a story, but at least it would prove that he wasn’t a charlatan, that he indeed did know the great Baal Shem Tov, for he was the only disciple there when the story took place.  Clinging to his memory of the story thread, he made his way back to the castle, and as soon as he was shown into the nobleman’s presence, this is the story the disciple began to pour out.

Once the Baal Shem Tove told him to harness the horses, so that they could take a trip to Turkey, where at the this time of the year, the streets were decorated for the Christians’ Easter festival.  The disciple was upset: It was well known that Jews were not safe in that part of Turkey during the Christian Holy Week and Easter.  And, in fact, in the very region to which the Baal Shem Tov proposed to go, it was the custom during the Easter festival each year to kill one Jew in reparation.

Still, the Baal Shem Tov insisted and so they went.  They went into the city and made their way into the Jewish quarter, where the Jews were all huddled indoors, behind closed shutters, out of fear.  Thus secluded, they awaited the end of the festival when they could go out on the streets again in safety.  Imagine, then, how startled they were when the Baal Shem Tov, upon being shown into the room where they were gathered, strode over to the shutters, threw them open, and stood there in full view, mast as the procession was entering the town square!

Looking through the window, he saw the  bishop leading the procession.  The bishop was arrayed like a prince, with gold vestments, silver mitre, and a diamond-studded staff.  Turning to the disciple, the Baal Shem Tov said, “Go tell the bishop I want to see him.”  Was he out of his mind?  Did he want to die?  the disciple wondered.  But nothing could deter this order, so the disciple went out into the square and making his way through the crowd, came around behind the bishop just as he was about to mount the platform to begin his sermon.  More gesturing than speaking the words, the disciple hoarsely whispered to the bishop that the Ball Shem Tov wanted to see him.

The bishop seemed agitated and hesitated for a moment.  But after his sermon, he came, and he and the Baal Shem Tov went immediately into a back room, where they were secluded together for three hours.  Then the Master came out and, without saying anything else, told his disciple that they were ready to go back home.

As the disciple finished the story, he was about to apologize to the nobleman for its insignificance, for its lack of point, when he suddenly noticed the enormous impact this story had on the nobleman.  He had dissolved into tears and, finally, when he could speak, he said, “Oh, disciple, your story has just saved my soul!  You see, I was there that day.  I was that bishop.  I had descended from a long line of distinguished rabbis but one day during a period of great persecution, I had abandoned the faith, and converted to Christianity.  The Christians, of course, were so pleased that, in time, they made me a bishop.  And I and accepted everything, even went along with the killing of Jews each year until that one year.  The night before the festival I had a terrible dream of the Day of Judgement and the danger to my soul.  So when you came the very next day with a message from the Baal Shem Tov, I knew I had to go to him.

“For three hours he and I talked.  He told me that there was still hope for my should.  He told me to sell my goods and retire on what was left and live a life of good deeds and holiness.  There might still be hope.  And his words to me were, ‘When a man comes to you and tells you your own story, you will know that your sins are forgiven.’

“So I have been asking everyone I knew for stories from the Baal Shem Tov.  And I recognized you immediately when you came, and I was happy.  But when I saw that all the stories had been taken from you, I recognized God’s judgement.  Yet now you have remembered one story, my story, and I know now that the Baal Shem Tov has interceded on my behalf and that god has forgiven me.

When a man comes to you and tells you your own story, you know that your sins are forgiven.  And when you are forgiven, you are healed.”

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My Friend Ron

Last night I received a call from my friend Ron.

I met Ron at Northwest Airlines in 1990 – ’91 or so, and I liked him right away.  We just ‘clicked’ and our friendship continued to grow over the years.  Although younger than me Ron became my mentor at the airlines and helped me more than he will ever know.

About 10 years ago I began to have some concern about his drinking.  I didn’t want to lose him as a friend.  I talked with him about my concern, telling him that I loved him, and that I didn’t want to ‘lose him.’  In the end, this is about all we can do for folks like him – for folks like me.

Last night he called to talk about a guy he had recently flown with and it came out that he has been sober now for almost a year!  I didn’t ‘pick it’ right away, but reflecting upon our recent conversations, I have not heard the ‘anger’ or ‘angst’ or hopelessness in his voice as I had in the past.

I just feel so blessed sitting here this morning – and grateful.  For my friend Ron.

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The Basic Aircrew Read File

In 1977 we (Vance AFB, OK) picked up an ACE (Accelerated Copilot Enrichment) mission, using T-37s at 4 or 5 ‘northern tier’ SAC (Strategic Air Command) bases.  This was a program where ATC (Air Training Command, now AETC) provided SAC copilots with either T-37s or T-38s to fly for proficiency.  The thought was that they could gain flying experience in trainers that weren’t as expensive to operate as the bombers and tankers they were assigned to.  It was a good program, and it worked well.

I don’t recall exactly ‘why,’ but the Flight Safety Division at Vance was given the responsibility for developing and maintaining the operating procedures for the ACE program.  Well, okay.

One way we have to communicate information that pilots need to know before flying is the Flight Crew Information File, the ‘FCIF.’  We used to have to sign off the FCIF before each flight – or acknowledge that we were ‘current’ with it.  Not a big deal at all.  So, in developing the operating procedures for our ACE bases, we included a paragraph that required each pilot to review the FCIF before flying.

After we had it all together we submitted our 71st FTW (Flying Training Wing) ACE Operating Procedures to HQ ATC/DOT (Training) for approval.  Everything was fine, except our use of the term “FCIF.”   The little staff Nazi didn’t like us using “FCIF.”  He thought that it could be easily confused to mean the host base FCIF and wanted it changed.  Three or four months of work, and our Operating Procedures get bounced for this!  Okay, fine.

So, I had it changed to read, “Aircrew will review the Basic Aircrew Read File before flying,” and resubmitted it.  The staff queer was satisfied, and it was all approved.

About a year or so later we received notification that our ACE Operating Procedures would be up for an annual review.  This is what I was waiting for!  The only change we had for them was to add “BARF” to the paragraph explaining, “Aircrew will review the Basic Aircrew Read File (BARF) before flying.”  The implication being, ‘Aircrew will BARF before flying’… The staff Nazi was incensed when he saw our change; but both he and I knew there was nothing he could do about it!

Mikey and I are still laughing about this one…

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Just Thinking…

I want to live my ‘next life’ backwards:
– You start out dead and get that out of the way first.
– Then you wake up in a nursing home, feeling better every day.
– Then you get kicked out for being too healthy.
– Next you enjoy your retirement and collect all of your pension.
– Then when you start work, you get a gold watch on your first day!
– You then work 30-40 years until you’re too young to work.
– You get ready for college: drink alcohol, party, and you’re generally promiscuous.
– Next is high school, where you discover ALL the answers.
– Then you go to primary school, you become a kid; you play, and you have no responsibilities.
– Then you become a baby.
– And then… You spend your last 9 months floating peacefully in Spa-like conditions – Central heating, room service on tap, and then the finale,

– You finish off as an orgasm!

I rest my case.

(“Tweaked” from an email I received from a  friend…)

 

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Bored at the Airport?

Ever have a 3-4-5 hour ‘lay-over’ at an airport, with nothing to do?  Try this.

Head over to the ‘Community Service Phone,’ and page yourself to a certain gate.  Example: “Could you ask Bob Holliker to come to Gate 63, please?”  Then hang out a bit, to see who shows up.  On occasion, it actually works!

Another thing I used to do was, to page, “Any Friend of Bill Wilson.”  (Code for another member of AA.)  This also worked upon occasion, but it could “un-nerve” the guy who showed up – when I was wearing my airline costume!  (Hard not to “play with” that one, if you know what I mean!)

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No “Boots On the Ground” in Iraq!

Okay, now it all makes sense to me!

I saw Chuck Hagel, SecDef, on the news this morning, declaring once again that there are not, nor will there be, any American “boots on the ground” in Iraq.  And this just after announcing that we are sending another 130 “assessors” to Iraq.  That made no sense at all to me – until I thought about the recent push of the administration to have more gays in the military.  Then it all made sense!

Back in the day, gays were sometimes referred to as “light in the loafers.”  Okay, now this explains it!  We are sending gay troops to Iraq, so there will be no “boots no the ground!”

Clever bastards these guys are!

 

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My Tax Dollars at Work…

So now Dear Leader and his crew have decided to bomb ISIS in Iraq.

One mortar, one Mk81 ( a 500-pounder).  One US built Humvee, one Mk81.  One machine gun, another MK81.

There’s a good chance that some, if not all of the military equipment ISIS is using, is actually captured US equipment – abandoned by the Iraqis we gave it to in the first place.  Brilliant!

So now, stepping back and looking at things, what I see is: Dear Leader, in his haste to declare the war in Iraq over, handed over billions of dollars of US military equipment to the Iraqis and now we are in the process of using even more tax dollars to destroy it ourselves!  Brilliant!

 

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Contemplation

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There was always that moment of “contemplation” before a mission.  Always.  Briefings had been completed.  Personal equipment checked.  The pre-departure visit to the Men’s room.  Occasionally, nervous banter in the step-van on the way to the jet; or sometimes we just sat in silence.   Greeting the Crew Chief, checking the aircraft forms and the walk-around.  Then up the ladder and into the jet – to strap in and conduct the cockpit preflight check.  And after all of that; “contemplation.”  

Those moments, no matter how brief, or how long, were when we had the opportunity to just sit and reflect upon the mission – or upon occasion, on other things.  Often I would just silently sit there in the jet, lost in “contemplation;” present to the realization of just how blessed I was – to be doing what I always wanted to do as a kid!  

Sure I miss the “yanking’ and banking,’ but more than that I miss just sitting there in the jet – watching the activity on the flight line and just contemplating…sometimes, reflecting…

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On Robin Williams…

Last night we received word of Robin Williams (apparent) suicide.  Tragic.

As you might imagine the News is all over this story this morning.  Tributes; for sure. Speculation; all over the place.  Reviews of his work; almost non-stop.

One of the sound bites that caught my attention this morning is what he said about ‘sadness.’  Holy crap I can relate… that damn sadness!  Gawd damn it – that sadness – ever lurking in my shadows.

My last visit was maybe 6 months or so ago, in early April – just before my 50th high school reunion.  I was wondering, “What’s the point of it all?”  But somehow I found the inspiration to attend the reunion – and that made a huge impact on me.  I am beginning to see the ‘point of it all.’  It’s not at all, ‘about me;’  it’s about being there for others.

Last summer I began the “BratPin” project; an initiative to recognize and honor Military Brats for their – for our – service to our nation.  I have received many kind comments for my efforts.  What these folks, what these Brats don’t realize is, they are saving my life – that it is me who is so grateful.  With every comment I feel embraced by an extended family.  I feel ‘love,’ something I have avoided for so many, many years… just maybe there is ‘love’ in this world for me?

Beverly, an early sponsor of mine, told me that suicide is the ultimate “fuck you.”  And I believe it.  I have been to it’s threshold, many times.  And it sucks…

I had a counsellor who just sat back and looked at me one day, just grinning at me.  He sat there for perhaps a minute or so, just grinning.  Then he said, “Bob, we’ve been working together for the better part of 3 years now, and I can’t determine if you are the simplest person I have ever worked with, or the most complex.”  I heard that again this morning, as someone was describing Robin Williams.  You might think it ‘funny,’ but sometimes it isn’t.  It can be tormenting at times.  Behind the mask of the “Happy Bob.”

I have often lamented that I would have loved the opportunity to sit down with Robin and Jonathan Winters at an outside restaurant table somewhere, and just “had a go” with them.  No, I am not anywhere as “quick” as either of those two, but it would have been fun (for me) to have tried!

This morning I am a ‘bit’ sad, but not enough to descend back into my own personal Hell today.  More than ‘sad,’ I am grateful – grateful this morning that it wasn’t me…

GBU Robin…

 

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